The psychologist sat at the red wood desk.
“How can I help you?”
The woman looked and held her gaze.
“I’m not sure.” she replied.
“I don’t think I need help.
I’ve decided to change my life and am unsure where to begin….
Do you think that’s needing help?
You can help me.
I would like to change my life.
Can you help with that?”
The psychologist wondered if she was meant to answer or if the woman was thinking out loud.
In the end she side-stepped.
“You want to change your life you say….did I understand that correctly?”
The woman nodded her head.
“Ok.” said the psychologist.
“What would you like to change?”
“All of it.
Can you do that??
Is it possible to change all of it?
Or is it like a genie in a lantern where you only get three wishes??
Let’s go all out….I want to change all of it.”
The psychologist looked at the woman for a second time.
She guessed she was middle aged.
Maybe 40 or 45?
She had light hair with dark eyebrows, and a sunkissed tan that barely covered dark circles underneath her eyes.
The psychologist spoke.
“Ok. So you want to change your life…..
All of it……
I understand that.
Before we talk about what you want to change though, can you take a minute and explain the reason why you want to change?
Has something occurred to make you seek this new change? Or are you simply pivoting because you’ve had enough?
Hmm…. thought the woman.
That’s an interesting question and pondered how best to answer it.
In the end she chose honesty.
“I want to change because I feel like an imposter who has fallen into the life of somebody else and is living in a way which isn’t really me.
I’ve had enough.
I want to come home…..
Back to myself…..
I just don’t know how.
The psychologist turned the page she was writing in, before proceeding to speak.
“Do you have children?” she asked
“Yes.” laughed the woman. “Can’t you tell by the bags under my eyes?!”
The psychologist didn’t laugh.
“Do you have building blocks in your house?” the psychologist probed…”You know..like lego or duplo…do you have building blocks?”
The woman narrowed her eyes and wondered where the conversation was headed.
“Yes. We have building blocks” she said. “Why do you ask?”
The psychologist motioned to the child’s area.
“There are some blocks over in the basket. Can you pick them up and place them on my desk and bring your chair closer please.”
The woman did as she was asked.
“Now,” began the psychologist…”take the blocks out of the basket and divide them into groups of blue, red, orange and green….
The woman nodded and sorted the blocks into colours.
“Now, take the orange and build a base.
Use all the orange until there are no more orange blocks left.”
The woman followed the directions.
“Now, take the green and build on top of it.
When you are finished with the green, repeat with the blue and red.”
The woman did as she was instructed.
“Great.” replied the psychologist and sat in silence.
“Great?” asked the woman.
“I don’t get it……
Why did you ask me to do that?
What’s that got to do with changing my life?”
The woman looked at her watch.
“Our session for today has expired.
We’ll continue this conversation next week when you come back.
You can leave the blocks where they are.
I’ll put them away once you go.”
The woman stood up with a puzzled look and left.